Adults

It’s one thing to complain and do nothing.
It’s a better thing to appreciate and not complain.
It’s an ultimate thing to self-improve, be a doer, and appreciate without complaining.

EJay’s thought behind the adult books: Inspiration to focus on what you are able to control, designed to heighten self-awareness and accountability.

  • In the Game: Life
  • In the Game: Relationships
  • In the Game: Careers and Executives
  • Spiraling
In the Game: Life

Quick Pitch:
In the Game: Life—uniquely infused with a poignant fictional story and complemented with thought-provoking chapter questions—is an adult blended self-refinement tool designed to help people get what they want out of life by looking at life from different angles. Of the many angles to look at life, In the Game: Life offers seven. Straight talk; 4/5-hour read.

More Details:
EJay’s In the Game: Life is an adult self-refinement tool designed to help people get what they want out of life by looking at life from seven different angles. There is no one-size-fits-all recipe or solution for life; however, there are unique responses that are decorated with distinct components, self-personalized by individuals. Infused with a promotion of self-awareness, discipline, accountability, and resiliency, In the Game: Life imbues a sense of empowerment—inspiration to get the most out of your life by taking advantage of what you can control.
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In the Game: Careers and Executives

Quick Pitch:
In the Game: Careers and Executives—uniquely infused with a luminous fictional story and complemented with thought-provoking chapter questions—is an adult blended self-refinement tool that offers useful tips to spark critical thinking for personalized career cultivation and navigation. Straight talk; 4/5-hour read.

More Details:
EJay’s In the Game: Careers and Executives is an adult self-refinement tool that offers useful tips to spark critical thinking for personalized career cultivation and navigation. This self-refinement tool extends inspiration and encouragement to determine what you want for your career and go for it! An inspirational ride brimming with self-awareness and accountability, In the Game: Careers and Executives unfolds into perseverance for deserved attainment.
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In the Game: Relationships

Quick Pitch:
In the Game: Relationshipsuniquely infused with a dynamic fictional story and complemented with thought-provoking chapter questions—is an adult blended self-refinement tool that extends direct insight into relationships to help people enhance the relationships they care about and value, beginning with the individual in the mirror. Straight talk; 4/5-hour read.

More Details:
EJay’s In the Game: Relationships extends direct insight into relationships to help people enhance the relationships they value, beginning with the individual in the mirror. Sparkling with an elaborate mix of self-awareness and accountability glazed with self-empowerment, In the Game: Relationships serves as an adult self-refinement tool for building, maintaining, and strengthening different types of meaningful relationships.
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Spiraling
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Quick Pitch:
Spiraling is a fictional novel about reconciliation after cheating, laced with a twisted story of true friendship (with no male bashing).

Synopsis:
Spiraling vividly explores the lives of four friends who fight to win back the hearts of their significant others after they get caught cheating. One salacious summer changes their lives and who they are as individuals.

Harley, Avery, Simone, and Jade, also known as the foursome, are best friends who are in different stages of their intimate relationships. Harley is dating, Lorenzo, the man of her dreams. Avery is happily married to Laina; and they have two children. Simone is married to Bryson, a man who adores her. Jade is engaged to the love of her life, Isaiah. Unfortunately, love was not enough to keep the four friends faithful. They indulge in unscrupulous behavior. They get caught cheating, entangled in webs of infidelity, lies, and reality. One by one, their lives start spiraling out of control. While fighting to win back their significant others, Harley and her friends discover more than they had expected.

***Main Characters, Spiraling excerpt, and Book Club Questions****
The Foursome (mid to late thirties)
*Harley: Entrepreneur, owns an art gallery
*Avery: Attorney at Law
*Simone: Marketing Director
*Jade: Executive Admin
The Spot… Their place of solace, convivial gatherings, and where they over indulge in adult fun.

The foursome at The Spot after they get caught cheating…
“I’m scared,” confessed Simone.
“You and I are in the same situation.” Avery glanced at Simone. “Both of our marriages could end in divorce.”
“I didn’t even get a chance to get married. My man left me. It’s all my fault.” Jade shook her head. “Isaiah was a good one too.”
“If the three of you get another chance, give it everything you’ve got. Of course, it might cost you. I thought Lorenzo and I would talk, and he’d take me back. I was wrong.”
“I’ll bow down and kiss Isaiah’s feet if he gives me another chance.”
“With everything that has happened to us, one thing is for sure.” Harley summed it up, “Karma is a bitch! We should have known better.”

Book Club Questions 
(SPOILER ALERT! Answer the questions after reading.)
From the twisted friendship between the main characters/foursome (Harley, Avery, Simone, and Jade) and the relationships with their significant other and extra to the foursome trying to reconcile their intimate relationships after they get caught cheating, Spiraling has a lot going on; hence the title Spiraling.

  1. What are your overall thoughts about Spiraling?
  2. The author believes that while people can be driven to cheat, such as being mistreated or when something is missing in the relationship, people cheat because they choose to. Also, cheating is a gross violation of trust, whether you’re married or not, and is not easy to forgive. Spiraling came about because the author wanted to explore the varying degrees of cheating and the underlying factors of cheating. (Not thinking she was doing anything wrong, Harley’s innocuous flirtation was fun to her. Avery’s adultery made him feel like he still had it going on. Simone lacked quality time and attention from her husband. Jade didn’t appreciate her good man and didn’t truly love herself.) Consequently, Spiraling morphed into reconciliation after cheating laced with a twisted story of friendship, and no male-bashing.
    • What are your thoughts about the different reconciliations offered in Spiraling through trust, open communication, counseling, and self-help (all grounded in self-reflection and forgiveness)?
      • Harley & Lorenzo (trust and open communication)
      • Avery & Laina (counseling and empathy)
      • Simone & Bryson (self-help and honesty)
      • Jade & Isaiah (open communication and personal growth)
    • What do you think about the varying degrees of cheating and the foursome supporting it?
  3. Amid the reconciliations, the author shifts focus from Harley, Avery, Simone, and Jade’s strong bond to the bond strengthening between them and their significant other to show that the foursome should have always had the deepest connection with their significant other than with each other. Do you think couples who have a stronger bond with each other than with outside people, including their family and friends, protects the trust and fidelity in their intimate relationship? Reasons?
  4. Spiraling is centered around the friendship between Harley, Avery, Simone, and Jade. They acknowledged a valuable attribute about true friendship after reconciling with their significant other.
    • What was the foursome’s ultimate realization about their friendship (at the end)?
    • Do you and your friends find yourselves validating each other in your wrongs, OR do you all call each other out in hopes the person will self-adjust/self-correct/improve?
  5. The primary messages of Spiraling: (1) Surround yourself with genuine friends who don’t validate you in your wrongs, and (2) Indulge in self-care to get yourself right. What other messages did you see?
  6. What are your thoughts about the twists in Spiraling
    • Lorenzo suggesting that he and Harley abstain from sex to strengthen their union?
    • Laina’s response to Avery’s confession, giving him permission to see other people—thus, removing the thrill of sexing other women?
    • Bryson’s confession that he had a one-night stand while on a business trip years earlier?
    • Isaiah showing up at Jade’s support group meeting?
  7. The author believes: You either trust your special someone or you don’t. Lorenzo, Laina, Bryson, and Isaiah trust Harley, Avery, Simone, and Jade, respectively, as shown with them accepting the foursome’s close friendship and being okay with them hanging out habitually. What type of life do you and your spouse/significant other have outside your relationship?
  8. Considering the varying degrees of cheating (flirting to emotional and physical infidelity), the author believes that women cheat just as much, if not more, than men. Hence, three of the main characters are women and one is a man. What do you think?
  9. While understanding the pain and seriousness of adultery/cheating, the author shows that the sooner issues in a relationship are addressed, the sooner you can find a solve and move forward (together or apart). (Harley, Avery, and Jade focused on solutions while Simone spent more time on the problem.) Thinking about issues/concerns in general that arise in your marriage/intimate relationship, do you find yourself focusing more on issues/concerns or solutions? Reason?
  10. As the author states in Spiraling through Lorenzo, Harley’s boyfriend, cheating is whatever your spouse/significant other thinks it is. Knowing what your spouse/significant other considers disrespectful or cheating, what do you do to yield to temptation?
  11. Laina had a “not my man” mentality. Would you say what your spouse/significant other won’t do?
  12. The author shows a majority of the men in Spiraling as good. What are your thoughts about faithful men and men taking women back who have cheated?
  13. The descriptive sex scenes with the extras simply show that sex is different with them, not that Harley, Avery, Simone, and Jade do not have great sex with their significant other. What do you do to keep sex exciting and fresh in your marriage/intimate relationship?
  14. Thinking about the personalities, demeanor, and life experiences of the characters, which character(s) do you most relate to and how? If none, the author demonstrates near perfection in Isaiah. So are you most like Isaiah who is consistently loving, forgiving, and supportive with no past infidelities?
  15. The author includes different topics as a part of character development—Harley’s celibacy and trust issues, Avery’s mid-life crisis and never having truly dealt with the death of his father, Simone experiencing “the good life” and dealing with a serious quandary for the first time in her life, and Jade lacking self-love and never dealing with her detrimental past. What are your thoughts on these topics?
  16. The foursome self-reflected, which led to their personal growth, after they got caught cheating and wanting their significant other back. What things have your experienced that made you self-reflect?
  17. Although the foursome is very close, Harley and Avery are closer to each other than they are with Simone and Jade. Hence the reason Avery’s wife, Laina, feels completely comfortable with Harley. How does the closeness you have with each person in your personal friendship circles vary/compare?
  18. If you wrote a book, what would it be about?

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Books above are available in paperback and eBook (via links on the lower right)